We usually speak words and sentences. These words and phrases come out of our mouths as sound waves. The sound waves travel through the listener’s ear to the brain, where they are converted into words and sentences. Then listeners can understand them by voice tone and body language. This theory is something we know, but did you know that words and phrases are a very small part of our communication?
Scientists have found that when two people speak, words only contribute 7% to their communication. Also, 38% of this talking information is exchanged through our voice tone. You know, when the average person says the same sentence in different tones, listeners understand it differently. So, what helps the remaining 55% communicate? Our body language fills that gap.
The human brain has two parts. One part is the thinking brain. The other part is the feeling brain. The thinking brain works by looking at a small amount of data and coming to definite conclusions. The feeling brain looks at a large data set, summarizes it, and makes inferences.
These are what we feel as emotions.
When we talk to someone we have the ability to choose and speak the words we speak. What is used here is the thinking brain. It means that the words and sentences tell the thoughts in our minds.
For example: When you talk to your friend and that friend feels annoyed with you, you have to talk to him well, no matter how you feel about it. There he can feel your emotions through the tone of your voice and body language, even if your words do not express your feelings.
So when you talk to someone, in addition to words and language, body language is also important.
In general, any human being can read the body language of others. You can find more new information by reading this body language. This will allow you to find out what is hidden in the heart of the person you are talking to.
Many people can understand his or her feelings by listening to the tone of voice of another person. If you pay attention to someone’s words and tone in this way, you can get a 45% understanding of it. In addition, if you look at his or her body language, you can gain another 55% understanding.
If the job you do is a job where you have to talk to people often, this tactic is very important to you. Also, did you know that if you can use body language in addition to words, language, and tone when you speak, your listener will be able to understand it better?
How to learn exactly?
If you want to learn how to use body language in addition to voice acting like this, the best place to practice it is to attend a drama workshop. In such a place you will learn how to use body language in addition to your voice.
If you like, learn what other people’s body language doesn’t tell you. You can practice this. Humans are born with this ability. But due to the low usage, it is gradually declining. As you get used to this, you can pay close attention to the language, words, and body language of those who speak to you. But this must be done very carefully. If not, you may cause the other person embarrassment.
For this reason, pay close attention to the other person’s facial expressions during your early training. These are called micro-expressions. This will help you to understand someone’s feelings to some extent.
What are these patterns?
There are several patterns you can see in someone’s body language.
- If someone is holding hands while talking to you,
- he is put into the hands in the pockets of the clothes he is wearing,
- both hands are held back,
It means that the person does not trust you that much.
And how do you know if that person trusts you?
- If the person you are talking to keeps his hands clearly visible to you,
- At other times, when a man goes to a certain place and stands or sits, he spreads his arms and legs well and tries to get more space (which shows his strong self-confidence).
- If a man goes to a certain place and stands or folds his arms and legs while sitting (it shows his low self-confidence).
When you study body language in this way, you have a pattern that you often see there. You can know if the other person is scared or confident. (These are called barrier signals.)
Usually, a man, when he goes to a place unfamiliar to him
- He walks very slowly.
- Or he keeps his hands tied.
- If he wears a tie, he always touches it.
A woman, when she goes to a place unfamiliar to her
- She walks very slowly.
- She keeps her hands tied.
- If she has a handbag, she always keeps it in front of her.
Such things have existed since the beginning of human evolution. In the days of human evolution, people often clasped their hands together to protect their body parts when they went to a place unknown to them. (Barrier signal)
- So you can go to a shop somewhere to observe these barrier signals and look closely at the people coming to that place. If someone walks with their arms outstretched, the place is a familiar place to that person.
- And if someone is walking slowly and looking around, you may realize that the place is not a familiar place to that person.
- Security guards at airports and casinos can be described as people who are trained to recognize body language.
- What those security guards are doing is watching CCTV camera videos all day long. There they can look at the behavior of the people there separately and be aware in advance if they are going to do something illegal.
What you learned, in the beginning, is that our words convey thoughts, and body language conveys the feelings of the heart.
If you learn body language well, you can easily convey your feelings to others. And you can understand what others are saying in body language. I think it will be very important for your personal life and professional life.